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In love? It's not enough to keep a marriage, study finds | Reuters

News Type: Event — Seeded on Tue Jul 14, 2009 2:57 PM EDT
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Living happily ever after needn't only be for fairy tales. Australian researchers have identified what it takes to keep a couple together, and it's a lot more than just being in love.

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maddad
The study, entitled "What's Love Got to Do With It," tracked nearly 2,500 couples -- married or living together -- from 2001 to 2007 to identify factors associated with those who remained together compared with those who divorced or separated.
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Reply#1 - Tue Jul 14, 2009 2:58 PM EDT
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Lady Bug
And couples where one partner, and not the other, smokes are also more likely to have a relationship that ends in failure

What is that about? I don't smoke, but my husband does...Maybe this will make him stop!!!

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Reply#2 - Tue Jul 14, 2009 4:21 PM EDT
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HoboDrifter

Smoke weed everyday.

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    #2.1 - Tue Jul 14, 2009 5:54 PM EDT
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    cookin mama

    Lady Bug my husband quit over a year ago, and he can't stand to be around smokers now. And he quit for himself.

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    #2.2 - Tue Jul 14, 2009 6:26 PM EDT
    {"commentId":8218094,"authorDomain":"lady-bug"}
    Lady Bug

    Thats Great...How long did he smoke?

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    #2.3 - Tue Jul 14, 2009 10:02 PM EDT
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    {"commentId":8218608,"authorDomain":"cookinmama"}
    cookin mama

    He started when he was 15 quit a few times. Then last year he had a health scare and was turning 50. So he quit he used the patch. But he says to himself there is no reason good enough to start again. I am so very proud of him.

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      Reply#3 - Tue Jul 14, 2009 10:31 PM EDT
      {"commentId":8222677,"authorDomain":"lady-bug"}
      Lady Bug

      Me too....Great Job....cooking mama's hubby....:)

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      #3.1 - Wed Jul 15, 2009 8:14 AM EDT
      {"commentId":8238896,"authorDomain":"cookinmama"}
      cookin mama

      Thanks Lady Bug I will tell him.

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        #3.2 - Wed Jul 15, 2009 8:23 PM EDT
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        Garza
        kids before marriage
        parents ever separated or divorced experienced marital separation themselves

        These are the only ones right now that would be the deal breakers for my husband and I.

        Good thing my hubby was 25+ when we got married, he wanted kids more, he is only 7 years older, I don't smoke (on a regular basis) but he does only when he is at work. Lets hope all those ones work in our favor!

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          Reply#4 - Tue Jul 14, 2009 11:21 PM EDT
          {"commentId":8228411,"authorDomain":"heartland"}
          justmy2centsworth
          A couple's parents also have a role to play in their own relationship, with the study showing some 16 percent of men and women whose parents ever separated or divorced experienced marital separation themselves compared to 10 percent for those whose parents did not separate.

          I don`t really agree with this one. Both mine and my husbands parents divorced, and we both agreed early on, we didn`t want to put our children through that. Plus, both of our biological dads have been in numerous, failed relationships. But on the other hand, our mothers went on to re-marry and are still married. Our kids are way closer to our step-fathers.

          Also the smoking thing. My husband smokes, I don`t. (he doesn`t in our house though)

          I told him from the start that I didn`t want our house smelling like a dirty ashtray. He agreed. Plus, I didn`t want our kids exposed to more second hand smoke than necessary.

          I really, really wish he would quit. He has high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and Barret`s esophagus. Plus he`s self-employed and under a lot of stress. Not good factors at all:( I just keep hoping he`ll finally decide he`s ready to quit.

          BTW, we`ll be married 17 years in a few days! ;)

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          Reply#5 - Wed Jul 15, 2009 12:51 PM EDT
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          cookin mama

          I hope he does quit for his sake.

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          #5.1 - Wed Jul 15, 2009 8:25 PM EDT
          {"commentId":8247564,"authorDomain":"heartland"}
          justmy2centsworth

          Me too cookin mama, me too......*sigh*

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          #5.2 - Thu Jul 16, 2009 11:59 AM EDT
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