An Open Letter To The Molester Of My Son

To maddad,

I cannot even begin to fathom the pain and suffering this scum caused to you,your son and the rest of your family. You are certainly a bigger man than I am, because if this scumag would have done that to one of my boys I can guarantee 100% that he would be dead and I would be in jail for murder. This man does not deserve to live, there is NO EXCUSE for doing that to children, I do not care what lame politically correct reason the defense lawyer comes up with to quantify this inhumane act. This is just another prime example of why the death penalty should be a valid penalty in every state and why it should be carried out quickly instead of years and years of going through the courts.

I'm so sorry about everything that's happened to you and your son, Mark. This is just a suggestion to help your son cope with his emotions; I've heard horse therapy works well. This is a link to a program in my state, but I'm sure you can find one most anywhere:

www.heartsandhorses.org/programs.html

Maddad,

As a fellow survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I know that your son can and will recover. The human spirit is a remarkable thing, and with your love, your son's will one day be whole again. As for the creature who perpetrated such violence on your son, I know it is small comfort to know that he will one day be judged by a power larger than all of us, but in the meantime, know that his fellow prisoners will make his prison sentence a hell on earth. While I know that neither you nor your son will ever forget what happened to him, I hope that it will eventually become something you don't think about every day. A psychologist was immensely helpful to me as I worked through my thoughts and feelings. I will keep you both in my prayers.

I know your pain. Ruined us. Devil. Absolute devil.

Maddad,

My thoughts and prayers go out to your family. As a victim of sexual abuse and the mother of a child who has suffered at the hands of one of these vile creatures, I can in some way relate to what you and your family are enduring. Please know that with time, patience and love your child can come out of this a stronger individual. I understand very well that the words and assurances of others could not begin to change the day to day struggle you and your family live, my intention is to provide some hope of a future that is less of a struggle.

good luck and best wishes from those who suffer with you.

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Wow, I'm not even sure what to say, saying I'm sorry doesn't seem to be enough. I know that you and your family will recover from this with time, and know that I will pray for you all.

I read somewhere that the best revenge is living well, so you and your family live well maddad, and know that every day is a new beginning, God Bless.

I know your faith is in tatters, but I hope you won't be offended by my offering of prayers for you, your son and everyone who has suffered as a result of this lowlife's crime.

If it is any comfort, it is my understanding that God will not forgive as long as the perv's attitude is, "I didn't hurt anyone." Also, reconciliation has to be initiatied by the offendor. We are under no obligation to forgive those who have not sought it. We are simply asked to not be consumed by hatred ourselves.

Half-jokingly and half-seriously, I was once told to pray that everybody, including scumbag's like the man you've described, get their just due, i.e. what they deserve. We then that leave that "due justice" up to God.

If for you that server of justice is not God, then at least give this criminal's just rewards up to fate, and those who are happy to carry it out. He is in prison, yes? Life for him can't be good. I guess the point is that you can't serve him up a cold dish of what he deserves without destroying yourself, and separating yourself from those who love and count on you. There are others who have much less to lose who can, and will, however. Remember, too, that socieity will never forget this crime against your son. The molestor's life will never be whole again...and hopefully, knowledge of that fact will count for something.

God bless.

Get your son a good psychologist now! Work thru this issue now or know it will grow to be an unmanagable presence in his psyche and personality. DO THIS. As a fellow survivor, I can attest to the constant, daily interruption my experience has created in my life. Do the hard work now so he has a chance to be free of this monster some day

And talk to someone professionally for yourself, too, so your son isn't left w/o a father. I can hear your rage, and I understand completely, but it can manifest itself in unhealthy ways (like killing that piece of @!$%#)!

Are you suing the daycare? If they were aware of his criminal past there may be liability laws that will help you pay for your child's extended care (these bills won't go away on their own, and this kind of thing has a tendency to keep coming up if you're not lucky).

Praying for you in Dallas!

R

the best thing for your son is to have his family's support, which he most certainly does.  i would wipe the floor and thensome with that monster who hurt your son.  it is unfortunate that he or any other child has to experience something this dispicable.  i will let you know that there is hope for your son.  i am speaking as a survivor who did it without her family's support.  he has the leg up already, please take care of him so that he may grow into the intelligent, confident, and capable man that Brian Michael Lane has attempted to destroy.

the best revenge is living well

We have got to get laws passed that sentence these creatures to prison for life without parole the first time. I'll bet this creep was already convicted at least once and got out. As a survivor of this same crime, I can say that it affects you for the rest of your life, and in many ways the people who do this are worse than murderers. The people who have live through this have to cope with it for the rest of their lives....and these monsters get to do it over and over again.

MADDAD....still praying for you and your family. ((((MADDAD))))

Maybe this sorry SOB will get a real big, brutal, horny cell mate. The other inmates hate child molesters, maybe someone will finish this disgusting excuse of a human being off.

Twenty years I know... does not seem like enough, but maybe everyday this sorry turd will think about what he's done.

Prayers to MADDAD and his family. I can only say that I wish I were as strong as he. To the scum bag disgusting perverted monster/animal that did this to his son, I know what they do to monsters like you in prison and I know you won't like it. Maddad is too well versed to say it so I will, I hope you get what you deserve and never forget that little boy that you traumatized for your own sick pleasure.

Maddad, There is a God and we may never know why this was allowed to happen but one thing is for sure, you can forgive this bastard because "Pooky and them" have him covered. May you and your family find peace and solace. Use this trgedy to strengthen your families resolve to be closer and more loving. Get your son the help he needs so that he stops turning that anger in on himself. Love the hate out of him.

If all else fail let's find that bastard and boil him in oil.

Thanks for sharing! I hope it helps! I certainly am not envious of your situation, but I do admire your strength and resolve to move forward. I think most people like to think they would seek revenge etc. etc. but I think alot of people would implode under the strain and turn to self destruction. Stay strong and stay in control. I genuinely hope every day gets a little better for you and your family.

I have no words either for this it seems that a lot of us have been victimized in one way or another..it doesnt matter how far the "act" itself goes no one should ever come in contact with a child in such a perverted manner. I think all dads would love to get their hands on these scumbags and choke the life out of them.  I feel exactly the same way however another writer noted that we would not do our children any good by getting ourselves locked up ..this is so true  too but I can also say that it would be very hard for a jury to convict a father for trying to protect his family even if it is after the fact. The laws should be clear and concise on these types of crimes.  Castration or death should be the only options upon conviction..then too we have to be sure beyond a reasonable doubt that the f!@#$r actually did it and then the sentence should be carried out.

As I, myself, have problems believing in a loving "sit-on-the-sidelines" God, I cannot offer prayers for you...but you have my sincerest wishes of goodwill.

I understand your handle now.

My heart goess out to you and your son.

So help me God, if someone abused my child/grandchild he would not make it to court.

Hi Mad Dad

Wow, I feel so badly for you and your son. I really do. I went through the same stuff. Then I was super over protective of my daughter. Had a hard time letting her out of my sight. This hasn't been good for her. I had many years of therapy. And she had many years.

I can tell you for sure, this is hard stuff for the both of you. Lots of ups and downs. I am finally at peace with it. It took me years. And the fact that I rubbed it off on my daughter really upsets me.

I can tell you that after years of therapy and lots of searching I am into weird sex now. I am good with it now. Took me some time. But I have to have complete control. I can't let anyone touch me without my complete permission.

So, if your son goes down this weird path. Let him and support him. It will be awesome if he can find some kind of sex life. I think most of us don't, it is always ackward for us.

I wish you well, and lots of luck. Everyone is different. Maybe he will just find a way to accept it and move on. I hope he does. I know I still hold some kind of grudge.

I hate all child molesters and I wish they had much stronger laws. My guy is on the streets. Only did probation. Gave me a life sentence.

Jane

I will pray for you and your children everyday. I have kids of my own and I cannot even fathom the anger and pain that you have all been put through.

my prayers and thoughts go with you and yours years ago a supposedly newlywed couple did the same to my son he got 11 years out of the terrible thing he put our family through i have never discussed it with anyone until now. its is so hard to have forgiveness for someone who does those kinds of deeds i call them satan come into our family. it has caused me so many sleepless nights the anger u feel towards someone like that. i even pray for forgiveness for the hate i feel towards that man. im so sorry for your son. may with your love and strenght of your family he will grow up a good man as my son did. who become a loving father himself.

God had nothing to do with this.

My daughter also was tortured by a sicko like this, they think there is nothing so terrible about this, after all it happened to them and they are ok.....

Your child is crazy angry and has no idea why, but you know.

Pour out your love for him and get him into a class of some kind where he can beat something up, Karate would be good since they will also teach him self control whigh he needs to learn.

Remember that he is now "tagged" and other molesters will see that, sorry to say that. Teach him bounderies.

My love goes out to you and your boy (and you might get some counciling your own self too), and thanks for posting his picture!!

Don't blame our Father in Heaven. He loves us and does not want anything bad to happen to any of us. Blame Satan and his demons and men who have allowed these demons to control their mind and emotions.

These men are not sick people. They are demon possessed and evil to the core. No, killing would be too kind. They should all have to stay in prison for the rest of their lives, and, hopefully, they will be treated far worse there than any hell we could imagine. I am a Christian but it is very hard for me to pray for someone who would hurt children. Pray that I may learn to forgive as our Father does, if we truly repent and turn from our wicked ways.

Hey Mark,

What does one say? He is a monster...the things that makes up the nightmare of every parent. Evil must be inherent, because as you said, you had the same thing happen to you, yet you never ended up like this. I am so sad to hear that your son is not doing well. I hope that time will heal his wounds, as they have healed yours.

Pain like this comes in waves, and on an anniversary, it might feel more like a tsunami. I hope writing this letter helped you clean out your head a bit. I hope it made him feel like the monster he is.

(((((mark)))))

I do NOT believe in the death sentence. I do not believe in torture. What this person was horrendous. Lock him up for life.